When softball season started this spring, we got an email from the coach which, among other things, asked for a volunteer for “Team Mom.” That assumption that taking care of people is a mother’s job shows up everywhere. Not sure why a father couldn’t coordinate snacks, organize the team party at the end, email reminders about games and practices. How many fathers will take that volunteer role when it is called “Team Mom?” What message does it send when every team our kids play on has fathers as coaches and mothers coordinating snacks? So I politely replied and suggested that we were probably looking for a “Team Parent.” Yes, it’s easy to let little things like this slide. And yes, I probably got a reputation for being a pain. But it’s the little things, the little words, that add up and perpetuate all these assumptions. We have to take a moment to call them out.