Heather Edwards of EastSideReviewNews.com reviews my book, This Is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today. Heather writes:
Mothers need oxygen.
That’s one of the messages behind the book, “This is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood To Get the Lives We Want Today.”
The author, Kristin Maschka, is a former Minnesotan who returned this month to sign copies and discuss her new book.
By “oxygen,” Maschka is referring to the things that make women who are mothers feel well-rounded and allows them to be good mothers. For women, “oxygen” can vary, but spousal, employer and society support are big components.
In her book, Maschka disputes many assumptions, including the one that mothers are better at taking care of children than fathers are. “Women learn this through osmosis from the society we live in,” she says.
She also argues that mothers, fathers and society in general needs to acknowledge that family work – the stuff generally done by moms – is, in fact, real work. “It’s not just something that mothers do,” Maschka writes. “… (it) requires time, energy and skill.”
But family work is so disregarded as “work’ that mothers who are not employed outside the home don’t get Social Security “credit’ for the time they are home with the kids.