ESP Book Spotlight: Remodeling Motherhood


I recently conducted an interview with Equally Shared Parenting on my new book, This Is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today.

Amy writes:

We have been anticipating a new book called This Is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today by Kristin Maschka for many months. Having had the privilege of reading an advance copy of Kristin’s manuscript, we knew it was going to be an empowering and very ESP-centric book. And we’re happy to announce that it was released earlier this month.

Remodeling Motherhood is Kristin’s own personal story of transforming her marriage from a traditional SAHM/working dad union to an ESP partnership – and how the result has given both her and her husband, David, lives that now feel so right. It is the first book we know of that describes this journey. We’ve gotten to know Kristin (who is a former president of Mothers & More) through emails over the past year, and she is a solid believer in equally shared parenting who walks the walk . To highlight her terrific book, we sent her a few questions so that you could begin to know her as well. Take it away, Kristin….

1. We love your story because you and David took on a world of gender assumptions about marriage and parenting and re-wrote your own rules instead. What do you think was the hardest ‘rule’ for each of you to re-write?

I think the hardest to rewrite were the unwritten rules that “Mothers are responsible for and best at family; Fathers are clueless” so that we could share responsibility for family work. We couldn’t seem to share the responsibility even though we wanted to. Over time we realized that we struggled because we were also dealing with so many other unwritten rules in other areas – like his job being 60 hours a week, and an assumption that caring for family didn’t take any time, and my feeling that my identity was wrapped up in being a “good mother.” We had to remodel everything else to get at this universal challenge for couples around truly sharing family responsibilities.

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