The waffle was a turning point for Kristin Maschka.
As the California-based career woman turned stay-at-home mom found herself scolding her husband for not knowing how their preschool-age daughter liked her waffle prepared, she realized it was time to remodel her ideas about parenthood.
Now, the past president and a national spokesperson for the organization Mothers & More, a nonprofit group that helps mothers of all backgrounds connect and find support, is author of “This is Not How I thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today” (2009; The Berkley Publishing Group).
We talked to Maschka, who has a 9-year-old daughter and runs a consulting business, about the need to remodel our ideas about motherhood and the challenges of adjusting to the role once fantasies about parenthood meet reality.
Q: There are so many books for mothers — career moms, stay-at-home moms, work-from-home moms. How is your book different?
A: One of the things that makes this different is it really treats the challenges that mothers and fathers face today as interconnected issues because I don’t believe you can solve one piece of the puzzle without looking at all pieces of the puzzle.