As I talk to mothers – and fathers – about my book, This is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today, the topic that comes up most frequently is how to share the family work and stop the nagging and arguments.
Here’s a gadget that can help couples share the responsibility – Grocery Gadget. It’s an iPhone app that friends of ours recommended to us as soon as we got our iPhones this past summer. If you each have Grocery Gadget on your iPhones then you can have a “group” of two that shares lists for all the places you shop. Then you can each add to the list whenever you think of something, and whoever ends up doing the shopping or stopping on the way home has the entire current list on the phone. It even allows you to upload pictures to be sure you are getting the right brand.
Now, my only caution is that technology is only as savvy as its users. This could easily become one more way in which mother takes responsibility – by making the list – and father takes the task – shopping. Which is fine if that is the division that makes sense right now. I just want to caution you not to fall into that as the default position and instead use the addition of Grocery Gadget as an opportunity to talk about how you want to share responsibility for planning meals, grocery lists, drugstore lists, shopping and meal prep. Any gadget that can do that gets a thumbs up!