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Stay-At-Home Moms SHOULD Be Mad at the Fed

Today a guest post from my good friend and a tireless advocate for women, Debra Levy. Here she explains why a largely unnoticed new regulation reinforces the old “he who earns it owns it” assumption rather than the remodeled “family income and wealth are the result of joint work—both family work and employment—so they are owned jointly by both spouses” – with chilling effect on mothers’ financial well-being.



MSNBC was onto something the other day in their piece Why Stay-At-Home Moms are Mad at the Fed.

Our regulators seem unaware of how families divide tasks or how women work, or even what they earn compared to men, and a new move by them may penalize women and erode progress on women’s access to personal credit.


It happens all the time. You go to a store whose merchandise you value, like and trust to make a family purchase, nothing for yourself. Jeans for your son. Underwear for your daughter, or loads of flooring for a home construction project at your area large box hardware store. You wait in line at the register and tick off the errands still on your list, that work email you have to fire off as soon as you leave the store.

You whip out your wallet to pay for your purchases and then the inevitable questions: debit or credit? Then, would you like to sign up for our [insert brand name] credit card and save 25% on today’s purchases?

I’ve done this once or twice. Store affinity cards can yield fabulous yearly discounts, exclusive to its members-debtors. Such cards are “marketing in a heart beat” for retailers, and sometimes they make our spending easier and more affordable.

Raise your hands, women and men of America, if you ever have opened a credit card account at a  point of sale transaction? Now, think back. When you did this, did you list “household income,” or “personal” or “independent income?” Continue reading

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Power of a Purse Campaign: From Tara Brettholtz, Mothers & More

Earlier this month I posted all the reasons it makes sense to talk about mothers and money this month, including  the Mothers & More 2010 Mother’s Day Campaign: Power of  Purse. I’m so glad to be able to share this guest post from Tara Brettholtz, who started the whole thing last year. Tara tells us the story of how the campaign came to be plus an update on the impact it is having this year in 44 local chapters in 23 cities across the country! It’s not too late to donate a purse – read on to find out how.

~ Kristin

Sharing the Power of a Purse: How a Small Group of Moms Sparked a National Mother’s Day Campaign

This Mother’s Day, moms in 43 cities across the nation are making sure that more mothers to get the thanks and recognition they deserve.  It’s part of a campaign called Power of a Purse, and the idea is to collect new and gently used purses to give to mothers living in poverty, transitional housing and domestic violence situations to send a message of hope and support.

The idea was started by a Mothers & More chapter in Saratoga County, NY last spring when the group stumbled upon literature about a local YWCA that provides housing and support services to women and their children with no other place to go.  The group placed a call and met with a staff member to inquire about making some kind of donation.  They discovered that the women and kids there needed everything.

Suggestions of donating canned food or toiletries were met with sincere gratitude, but what Mothers & More members really wanted was to feed the spirits of these women who were struggling.

That’s when they thought of a purse.

“A purse has many layers of meaning to a woman, no matter how much money she has in it.  It’s a shot of confidence, a sense of security and a home away from home,” says Tara Brettholtz, project manager for the campaign and a director of Mothers & More. Continue reading

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Remodeling Project #1: Casserole Dish, I Curse You

I’m so excited to have my first guest post from a reader of This is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today.  Well, in this case a reader AND a contributor. My friend Tod was so helpful while I was writing and you’ll find several quotes from him in the book. He was also present for the margarita night I held with several fathers described in Chapter 11. I knew Tod’s irreverent voice and perspective as a father would be perfect for a guest post this month when I wanted to focus on marriage and sharing family work, and he didn’t disappoint. Hope you enjoy it and take a look at his blog! Then join the conversation over at my Remodeling Motherhood Facebook Group too.

~ Kristin

Casserole Dish, I Curse You

There is a glass casserole dish that is currently the bane of my existence. OK, well, maybe not the bane. But definitely a bane.

You see, when I do the dishes and put them in the drying rack, I’ll put them away the next morning. But I have an unspoken rule: “I will only put away dishes when I know where they go.” This rule works very well for the arcane tools that could either serve to frost a cake or well serve a medieval bloodletter. And since I didn’t get those tools out, it makes sense that I shouldn’t necessarily have to put them away. Plus, the frustration my wife displays when these tools turn up missing (usually because I put them in the wrong place) makes me wonder if, once found, she’ll first use them to decorate a cupcake or the other use mentioned above.

However, this unspoken rule is not currently serving me well with the casserole dish. Continue reading


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