Our family makes its way through an annual New Year’s resolution process that serves us pretty well.
This year was different.
Our family is dealing with a lot of transition: our daughter transitioning to middle school; both my husband and I changing our employment – in ways that drastically change family time and the way we share family work; and the transition for our extended family that came along with my father-in-law’s brain bleed and ongoing recovery. Frankly, this year knocked us on our butts.
I thought our family needed to shake things up a little this New Year’s.
We did our standard steps. We reflected on 2010 together over Christmas Day dinner. My husband and I went out on our annual date night (this year at the Dal Rae) during which we usually can manage to reflect on the past year and set intentions for the next one by the time dessert is served. This year, we weren’t even done processing 2010 by the time we paid the check.
So I proposed to my husband and daughter that it was a good time to create a family vision. (well, that implies they had an option, and they knew they didn’t) Continue reading
My book, This is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today, tells the story of my journey navigating the changes in every aspect of my life after we had our daughter nine years ago.
I have recently admitted to myself that I am in the midst of a set of changes that are likely to be as difficult and challenging as those I went through nine years ago. Continue reading
I’ve started to get people asking where they can share examples they find of outdated mental maps and stereotypes about mothers, fathers, marriage, money and work. Also, where they can share their own remodeling projects and victories and their Remodeling Motherhood resolutions. So there are at least two places. Leave a comment here on this blog post, OR visit and join my Facebook Group for a discussion group there.
Okay, it’s not Mother’s Day yet, but in the Afterword of the book I suggest we all make resolutions each about the small steps we’ll take in our own life or together with other mothers and fathers to get rid of outdated mental maps and remodel our own lives and remodel the whole house. Share yours by clicking HERE year round.