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Mothers & Fathers: Share Family Responsibility Not Just “Tasks”

“Tell people what to do and they’ll take responsibility for the task. Tell them Why they’re doing it and they’ll take responsibility for the solution.”

~ Simon Sinek

This quote I got via email from Simon Sinek, author of Start with Why, is a great reminder for mothers and fathers of how important it is to share the responsibility for family work, not simply have mother delegate tasks to father. Who does the laundry and who makes pediatrician appointments may seem petty on the surface, but there is so much more at stake – our relationships with each other and with our children. Those relationships are the “why.”

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Check Out New Book – Equally Shared Parenting

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I’m giving a way one copy of a great new book, Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents, which is  officially released Tuesday, Jan 5. To enter, either leave a comment here about a challenge or success you have had sharing parenting – including childcare, housework, and employment – with your spouse; OR copy and paste this Tweet and send it on to your Followers. Deadline midnight Pacific time on Tuesday Jan 5. Winner to be selected at random, 48 hrs to respond after notification.

Equally Shared Parenting out 1/5! RT 2 win copy from Remodeling Motherhood author @KristinMaschka! #giveaway #books http://wp.me/pBswT-8y

So how did I come to have an extra copy of the book to give away? I connected with the authors, Amy and Marc Vachon while I was writing my book, This is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today. I had already visited their website and included them as a resource in my draft when they were featured in a New York Times article, When Mom and Dad Share It All. I reached out to them after reading the comments to the article online, some of which were downright hostile to the Vachons and the idea that parents could truly share everything about family life.

We started exchanging email encouragement with each other, and when my book was released in October it carried a testimonial from Amy and Marc inside, and they did a Q and A with me on their blog. Then in November, on my own book tour for This is Not How I Thought It Would Be, I got the chance to meet Amy and Marc. They got a babysitter and spent that precious time coming out to my book event in Assabett Valley MA hosted by the Mothers & More chapter there. What a treat to meet them in person, have them dive in to my workshop on identity, and then chat over drinks afterward.

This is a very real couple who has done some hard work and hard thinking about how to fight stereotypes about what mothers do and what fathers to in order to share parenting the way they want to. Not everything will apply to everyone or every couple, but it is sure to challenge readers’ stereotypes and give couples the tools they need to make the changes right for them.  Here’s the testimonial I wrote for them.

Equally Shared Parenting is a one-stop shop for couples who want to share in all aspects of life as parents  and are puzzled as to why that simple desire is often so difficult. Here couples will find the words that describe the goal, the real stories that show what is possible, and a ton of practical tips to get started right away. Marc and Amy Vachon are a godsend for couples who want and need to remodel motherhood and fatherhood to get the lives – and marriages – they really want today. Put this one on your must-read list!”
Kristin Maschka, author of This is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today

I already had an advance, unedited version when I received a full, hardcover version from their publisher so I thought I’d pay it forward by giving that copy away. Even if you don’t win, don’t miss out, order a copy of Equally Shared Parenting today!


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