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Spoiler Alert! This Mothers’ Day Movie Isn’t Really About Me

What an amazing way to celebrate my 10th Mother’s Day! Watching my own story on the big screen! Whew, I’m glad I already have the evening gown I’ll need for the premiere. I bought it for the day my husband and I renewed our vows to celebrate our new commitments to each other as parents. My only complaint about the movie trailer is that there’s too much focus on me. Really it’s an ensemble cast, as it was in real life.

Real change, big change, is built upon relationships and the belief that together we can do things none of us could do alone. I’ve found that this applies in spades to mothers – and fathers.

So spoiler alert! Here’s my own synopsis of the story.

Just over 10 years ago, our daughter was born.

And I fell apart.

Nothing about motherhood was how I thought it would be and no one could explain why. Continue reading

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Why I Hate the Mom Salary Survey

This past week leading up to Mother’s Day, Salary.com published its 10th Annual Mom Salary Survey which calculates that Stay-at-Home Moms Would Earn US$117,856 if paid for her family work. Employed mothers, the survey says, would earn US$71,860 above their regular salary for their mom duties – less because they pay for some childcare.

I hope the 10th Annual Survey is the last. Continue reading


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My Mother’s Day Resolutions

My book, This is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today, tells the story of my journey navigating the changes in every aspect of my life after we had our daughter nine years ago.

I have recently admitted to myself that I am in the midst of a set of changes  that are likely to be as difficult and challenging as those I went through nine years ago. Continue reading


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An Anti-Hallmark Poem for Mother’s Day

I found myself unexpectedly at our local library branch up the block this Saturday with my 9 year old. (Confession: Her stack of books was due THAT day.) While my daughter browsed, it occurred to me that even this small branch might have some poetry books and I’d been meaning to get some for myself. Among the ones I took home was American’s Favorite Poems , edited by Robert Pinsky.

It has been a joy to read – reacquainting me with poems that seem like old friends and introducing me to new ones – each with a short note from the person who sent it to Pinksy explaining why it was his or her favorite.

One poem seems particularly appropriate to share as Mother’s Day approaches. It’s not flowery and sentimental. It’s real. It captures that deep yearning for alone time that mothers – or anyone who cares for others – will recognize. That yearning for “a little room for thinking” explains why so many of us ask nothing more for Mother’s Day than time for ourselves!


She wanted a little room for thinking:

but she saw diapers steaming on the line,

a doll slumped behind the door.

So she lugged a chair behind the garage

to sit out the children’s naps.

Sometimes there were things to watch –

the pinched armor of a vanished cricket,

a floating maple leaf.  Other days

she stared until she was assured

when she closed her eyes

she’d see only her own vivid blood.

She had an hour, at best, before Liza appeared

pouting from the top of the stairs.

And just what was mother doing

out back with the field mice? Why.

building a palace. Later

that night when Thomas rolled over and

lurched into her, she would open her eyes

and think of the place that was hers

for an hour – where

she was nothing,

pure nothing, in the middle of the day.

~ Rita Dove


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Special Mother’s Day Offer!

Mother’s Day is almost here and what better gift then a copy of my new Los Angeles Times Best-Selling book, This Is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today. This is the perfect gift for any mother, no matter the age of her children, and even for your own mother! Read an excerpt now to see why.

And just for this Mother’s Day season, purchase a book for yourself or a friend and I’ll send you the link to download my FREE guide to making Mother’s Day Resolutions. Mother’s Day Resolutions are small steps you resolve to take to remodel motherhood for yourself AND to remodel the world around you so it works better for mothers, fathers and families.

My book also makes a perfect book club read for the months of May and June. Purchase 3 or more copies for your book club and I’ll send you the link to the FREE book club guide AND mail you  personalized autographed bookplates to insert into each book.

Pick-up your copies of This Is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today then email your receipt by April 28 to:

specialoffer AT remodelingmotherhood DOT com

or use the Contact Form to let me know. (For a book club, be sure to include the names I’ll need to personalize the bookplates.)

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